You Can't Be An Imposter While Being Yourself

Master certified coach Linda Bucher used to wear a crown in a jail cell she built herself, performing “poor Linda” so convincingly that even she almost believed it. In this episode of the Untamed Leader Podcast, Linda walks Lauri through the belief continuum that carried her from a locked hallway of impossible to an untamed life she calls easy, abundant, and fully her own.

Along the way: the moment mid-training as a master coach when freezing in front of an audience became her clearest lesson in untamed leadership, why envy is often longing wearing a disguise, and why you can't be an imposter while you're being yourself. 

If you've ever performed a version of yourself just to keep the peace, this conversation hands you a way out.

🔗 Find Linda: lindabucher.com

Key Takeaways

1. Untamed doesn't mean rabid. It means one of a kind. It's what's left when you stop performing for safety.
2. Self-abandonment can look like personality for years, until life or your body forces a different choice.
3. There's a difference between believing something is possible and believing it's possible for you, and the gap between them is where most of us get stuck.
4. Envy points at what you’re longing for and being called toward, not a blueprint to copy.
5. Imposter syndrome shows up when you're borrowing someone else's script. You can't be an imposter while you're being yourself. 
6. Sometimes Untamed Leadership is as simple as noticing when you're not present, and having the courage to pause.
7. Give attention, don’t get attention: the difference between performing leadership and actually serving the room.
8. Freedom looks like being able to say no to a good opportunity that simply isn't yours to say yes to.

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Welcome + meeting a soul sister

Lauri 0:32

Hi, everybody, and welcome back to the Untamed Leader podcast. My guest today is a new soul sister. I felt so at home in her presence and simultaneously like I was just meeting her and like I have known her for many lifetimes the minute I met her. So I just had to have to I had to bring her on the podcast. I had to have her on the podcast. Linda, will you share a little bit about what you would like the listeners to know about you?

Linda's work, purpose, and human design as a Projector

Linda 1:04

Sure. So I am Linda Booker, and I'm really pleased and excited to be here. I feel like every day I wake up and I get to do what I do. So what I do is I guide impact-driven humans to shed what's not fitting them anymore, to reconnect to the gifts that they've been given, and to create a life that's fully aligned and super deeply impactful. Because when you do that from that place is where you can unleash what you were born to bring. And that's what my purpose is, is to help people to unleash what they were born to bring. So that's kind of like the pathway there. And I do it as a master certified life coach. I do it as a speaker, I do it as a podcaster, um, I do it as a guide. Um, my human design is projector. So I am a guide to the generators and manifesting generators of the world. And um relationships are my how I move through and are able to make the biggest impact.

Lauri 2:14

So

What “Untamed Leader” sparks in her: truth

Lauri 2:15

that's a little bit about me. Awesome. Thank you so much for sharing. It there's so many things in what you say that just light me up and feel like, yes, yes, me too. You know, I do similar versions of that. And I want to start by asking you what when you hear the words untamed leader, what does that spark in you?

Linda 2:41

Well, it sparks excitement, like rubber my hands together. Um and it sparks that uh what what comes to mind is is the word truth, being the true authentic you. Um that's what it means to be untamed. It doesn't mean to um go become wild in the world, not by any means, unless that is the true you, then by all means, please do. Um but I I feel as if it's it's really about stop holding back, stop trying to be who you're not, be who you are, because that's you know, that's who the place from which you can unleash what you were born to bring from your true authentic self. So it feels like truth.

Lauri 3:29

Yeah,

Untamed isn't a rabid dog — reclaiming the word

Lauri 3:30

I love it. I love it. And I use words like wild, um, and untamed has sparked for some people this feeling of like a rabid dog, like it's sort of edgy and scary to some people. And when people started mentioning that, I said, that's great. I'm not gonna change the word that I'm using because I think there's something there where our innate nature, our intuitive way of being, our truth. The world has been telling us that there's something wrong with that. That maybe, oh no, if you let yourself do that, it's gonna be like a rabid dog. So I was like, I'm still gonna use untamed because there is a difference between untamed and a rabid dog. There's a whole spectrum in there that I want people to start embracing and stop holding back because someone else fears where it could go.

Linda 4:31

Yeah,

Bound in rope: the client who finally got to loosen it

Linda 4:32

I've actually had, I can think of two clients specifically that when I first met with them, I got this um visual that they were bound up in thick rope. Like, remember that cartoon um Penelope Pit Stop? She was like, I should get bound up and she would, they would lay her across the tracks and she'd be like, help a lady, help a lady, right? And she'd be all bound up, like like a mummy with only her head sticking out. And that was the visual I got with this one quiet client I can remember. And it's because since she was a a little girl, she was told, You're too much. And so it felt unsafe to be herself. And it took a couple of months for us to be able to loosen the rope and loosen the rope and loosen the rope, and until she finally was able to discover her truth untamed, um, and show up as herself and then realize that was safe to do now as an adult. Um, and now she's just, I mean, she lives in beautiful mountains of Switzerland. She just like moved across the world. She just got she untamed and like just like did her. It's so beautiful.

Lauri 5:45

Yeah. I love that. And I love the image of this cartoon, uh, where if I'm remembering it correctly, you know, she's tied to the train and a man has to come and rescue her. And that, you know, the heroine's journey is more of like we go inside and we realize, hey, I'm wearing these chains that may have been put on me when I was too young to stay myself, fight it. You know, we needed to to be safe. And now it's, oh, hey, with the help of this coach, I can actually untie my own chains, untie my own ropes, free myself from the tracks, and get up and walk forward into my own life. That's a hundred percent.

Linda 6:29

Um, it's the only pathway to untaming is to go within and and do it for yourself. No one else has the ability to do it for you, and you have your own responsibility to do it for yourself because of said gifts that you're meant to share with the world.

From wallflower to Victimville: the roots of self-abandonment

Lauri 6:48

Yeah. What has been your personal journey with untaming? Ah, okay, my personal journey.

Linda 6:58

So um it's a pretty giant shift. If you had known me when I was young, I was pretty much a wallflower. People don't even believe that about me because I'm so like, woo! I'm so out there, I'm so big energy now. But I was bringing everything in and I had no voice. I was afraid to speak because even as a young person, you know, a child and a teenager, I was afraid to speak. I thought it would hurt other people if I complained or spoke up about something. So I would just take it. And what that led to, that taking it is really a way of saying, I'm not worthy of being heard, of being seen. And the what happened that manifested as in attracting a fair number of bullies into my life. And I mean physical bullying. Um, I didn't realize that I was making myself a target of that. Um and then each time I was bullied, it was more reinforcement of see, you really, you really aren't worthy of being treated well. Um and it was never, I never had an issue with my parents. They weren't the ones bullying me. It was always like kids at school. Um, but and my parents don't even know where that came from, where I got that, you know, have to hold myself in and not really be seen or heard. Um, so it was a real difficult time. But I think the universe gives you opportunities to break patterns. And I was given opportunities to break those patterns. And I do remember the personal, I didn't know where it came from, but I would say maybe a giant intention I had set for myself. Because I remember I said it out loud one day ago, I don't know what life I'm meant to be living, but it's not this one. And that was such a strong declaration with so much power and intention behind it that it was the beginning, the very beginning for me. Now it was before I became a coach, um, but it was the very beginning. And at the time I was married, he's passed away now, but I was married to um an alcoholic. And so I was living in Victimville, poor Linda. You know, she has to deal with all this and hide it from everybody all at the same time and raise three kids. And I wanted to get out, but I couldn't get out because then my kids wouldn't have been safe. And it was, you know, he was a super great dad. It's just we recognize that alcoholism is a symptom of a of a lack of wholeness, of the true feeling not good enough. Like that I didn't even have it at that level, but wow, right. So yeah, but at the time I knew that I deserved or I was worthy, I don't like the word deserve, but I was worthy of so much more than I had been settling for. So when that happened, I remember telling him, you know, I used to be in this marriage because I needed to be. Because, you know, who are you if you're not like loved by another person? And, you know, what would that mean about me? I said, but that's changed. I'm here because I choose to be, and only as long as I choose to be. And I was very clear and confident and not mean when I said it, but the look on his face was like, I think, some devastation there to recognize and see that growth in myself. Um and it really was the beginning for me. Now, then of course the universe gave me more opportunities. So that husband, he died in his sleep just one day, 44 years old. Um, and I then I was a sudden widow and a sudden single mom. And then again, it was a crushing weight. Now I've got the kids and it's all on me. So I started to backpedal a little back into that poor Linda. Um, and which it had been reinforced reinforced over the years in so many ways. Like I was infertile, I had to go through like all the five years of lots of needles and indignities, and then I ended up adopting my children from Russia, which was super expensive, and I had to go over there like five times, and there was a lot going on that was always reinforcing poor Linda. So here it was again reinforcing poor Linda.

Lauri 12:25

Yeah, I don't like that you backpedaled, and I do have to say it's really helpful for me to hear, and I'm sure for the listeners, because sometimes we learn things in a deeper and deeper way. And when you said you made like a gesture like this when you had sort of your first moment of, I don't know what life I'm supposed to be living, and I know it's not this one, I saw the image of like a very explosive energy, almost like could happen on a superhero show, rippling out. And then it feels like each time the universe presented you with another wave of healing poor Linda and changing that for yourself, there were more ripples going out and also the ripples going deeper. And it's really helpful for me to hear because I am one of those people who has to learn the same lesson many times. And and I, when I'm calm and I'm cool and I'm talking about you or a client instead of myself, I'm like, well, it's the spiral of learning. That's how it's supposed to go. You know, it comes around and you just keep learning it deeper and deeper and deeper. When it's me, sometimes I get very frustrated. Like, oh man. For me, it's usually martyr. It's a little, you know, you know, create the world to need me and then be upset when it needed me. Um so continue. I just wanted to jump in with that for other people out there going, oh, thank goodness I'm not supposed to get it all in one go. Phew! Right.

Linda 13:59

Well, and I love that you said martyr because um it's part of my little story of how I escaped from Victimville, because that's a pretty big thing. I and I actually

The declaration that started it all, and the belief continuum

Linda 14:10

have done a keynote on that, and I actually have a little uh DIY on my website to turn circumstance into strength. I call it PowerShift. And that is that was my very true beginning of really be untaming, becoming untamed. Stop when I stopped settling and how I did it. And in general, you know, I I was a martyr. I never, I wasn't walking around like Eeyore, like, oh bother, everything's horrible. Like that was not me. That's never been my personality. I would persevere and I wouldn't ask for any help. I'd do it all by myself, a martyr. So I would say, yeah, like sometimes to spruce up my victim gray drab outfit in the Victimville jail, I would put on my fancy crown so that everybody could see what I had to endure. So that's like my little line. But so setting the powerful intention was really huge. That was the first thing that I had to do and that anyone has to do to escape this victimville and become untamed. Um, the second thing I had to do is shift what I believed could happen that if that I could even do it, that it could even be done. That's where I started. So I have this thing I call the belief continuum, because the continuum is like a big long scale. Everything's kind of closely related, but from end to end, it's vastly different. And at one end, you've got like impossible, not bloody likely, when pigs fly, right? And I visually I think of that like a real dark corridor with just a dead end, just a wall at the end. And when you're in that end of the corridor, there's no doors, there's no windows, there's no lights. You're just gonna be stuck there. But as you move down the corridor, down this continuum corridor, and you get towards it's possible. Now the light starts flickering and you start like, oh, it's possible, it's possible. And when you believe something's possible, that that is the discerning moment where you've made this shift because you won't do anything and your brain won't go anywhere if you believe it's impossible. You just stay in victim fill, you're done. As soon as you believe it's possible, even if you're not sure it's possible for you, you you begin to ask the question, how? That's a real magical question. How might it be done? Has it ever been done before? How did he do it? How did she do it? How might I do it? And from there, you can keep moving down that hallway. Now you're getting some little windows as you move, and then some bigger windows, and and you're moving down. Well, it's likely, it's probable, it's inevitable, but that's not even the end. At the very end of the hall, there's no there's no windows or door, it's just wide open, and that's it's already done. And that's belief. Belief is from impossible to it's already done. And so that's where we want to be moving towards. But all you got to get to is how. As soon as you get to how, now it will become possible because someone else has done it before. They have untamed, they have unleashed who they they are. It might be scary, but it can be done. And when you see who has done it before, then you can look and say, and what's happened to that person? Like, oh wow, they really shine now. Look at these examples in the world of people who are untamed and who shine. And then it's not, I mean, it's still scary, but then you know, it feels like possible. So it's really a beautiful thing.

Lauri 17:40

I love the continuum corridor. I was seeing so many things along the way as you were talking. I'm gonna go backwards. Uh, when the person got to the end and it's like the corridor

Envy as a mirror: why her and not me

Lauri 17:51

is gone, I was like, right, because they're back in like the untamed wild of all possibilities. Yes. And earlier, so I've had some times where in my own challenges of belief, something landed as you were walking us through the corridor, that there have been times where I get jealous or envious of others. Fortunately, they're they're significantly less often now because I get curious and like, well, how? And like see them as an inspiration. But it landed for me that when I was having the most intense experiences of like, why her and not me, it's because I believe it's possible, but I'm not sure if it's possible for me at that point. Right. And the more frustrated and angry I got, instead of going, Well, I'm feeling this way because there's a longing. I'm called to some element of what they have. And the same question of like, how did they get there, or saying, like, well, why her and not me? Less from a like my inner teenager or child temper tantruming, and more with a value of curiosity of like, okay, why her and not me? What is happening? Not let me go copy everything she's done, which I've also gone down those roads and made those mistakes myself.

Linda 19:24

Yeah, me as well. I actually have that exact same experience. Um, when I was a newer coach, there was another coach who only graduated from the exact same program that I did, maybe two years before me. And she was flying high, flying high. And I felt envious, and then that envy went to like dismissing, like, well, that's not, you know, but it really was still envy, and why her and why not me? And the and to recognize that was my own self-doubt, number one, like I can't shine like she shines. But then number two, my mistaken belief that I have to shine the same way she shines, which she shines giant, still to this day. She's and she's amazing. And I have a very different feeling about her than I did when I was feeling jealous. Now I'm like, whoa, that's awesome. The way she does it is so not for me. I very much recognize that. Um, however, it was because, you know, if I thought, oh, I can copy and do what she's doing and then I'll shine like her, I would have been just in imposter syndrome the entire time. It, you know, it wouldn't have worked anyway. I recognize that. Yeah.

Lauri 20:39

Yeah. It it does not work as a, so I'm a manifesting generator three, five. I have to try things and make all the mistakes. So I have made those mistakes of like, they're shining, I want to shine like that, particularly when money is involved in the shine. Money and like there's an impact piece. It's not all money for me. You know, when I've got like, oh, I'm canceling a program and theirs is selling out, I would have a like, why them and not me. And I spent a lot of time doing the copy paste and not just on my website of like, well, they did these steps, and I would simultaneously be like rebellious against the steps, and I don't like cookie cutter, and you can't put Lori in a box while I was mimicking, right? And it's so much clearer now that a lot of the things that I was mimicking are not things that light me up. Like it was making me feel martyry, it was making me feel frustrated. Because if you follow human design, when you're a manifesting generator of my type, when things are off, you feel frustration. Right. So hopefully, listeners, if this is speaking to you, I'm saving you the time by having made all those mistakes myself more than once. I got curious when you were talking because there is something about being untamed and something about being an untamed leader and voice that has always been a part of my soul's calling and what's interesting to me and where I'm called to go. What has your voice journey been like of realizing, oh, I'm holding myself back to this fully expressed, untamed you who's doing her in the world and doing it her way?

Linda 22:37

Right. Well, what's really interesting? So, with my human design, with I have self-projected authority, which means everything I'm meant to know and that anyone around me I'm meant to share with

Finding her real voice: from forced blogging to improvised coaching

Linda 22:49

will come out of my mouth in real time. So it's like literally voice, like literally voice. Um and uh what you know, when I first got into business like 17 years ago, like blogging was a thing. So I tried to write, write, right, write. And I I love music. So I blogged to musical lyrics, but it and it was really creative. I did like 17 of them, like they're really still good. And it was like kind of teaching tools that I had learned and I was embodying to the the reader. But it started to feel like a chore. And it's because that wasn't the way my voice is meant to be coming out in the world or meant to be heard. It's not meant to be heard through reading so much. Um and um Also, when I was a new coach, you know, I'm trying to use the tools and do everything the right way instead of giving myself permission to make it my own. And it was about three years in, I was in master coaching school at the time, um, and um with Martha Beck, and she said, you need to make it your own. And some of the exercises she had us do, we were like in a five-day intensive with her. There was like 12 of us. And she said, use something in this room to coach somebody else. And she would say, you know, so there was a dish of little mini candy bars. And um, I'm like, this person I was coaching was talking about feeling um strangled, right? And I said, Well, let's let's make let's make some boundaries. Like you, let's use these candy bars. Where are these boundaries? And she put them around real close to her, and she was sitting on the floor, and I said, Where would you like them to be? And she pushed them way, way, way, way back. So that was like, wow, I can I can just use my own creativity and my own um improvisal, you know, I'm an improviser by nature. I I improvise as a musician, so I improvise in the kitchen. Like this is a natural skill. I can I can just do this in my coaching as well. So I think one of the main things about embodying my voice was to be like, just notice who you are naturally, and and that's it. And then how how might that be utilized in a beautiful way to fulfill your purpose? And I think, and so then about four years ago, I started a podcast because talking is like loving.

Lauri 25:22

Yeah, I love that. I love the the creativity through voice, and it's really not possible for us to create if we're like, okay, give me the playbook and I will do exactly what you said in the playbook. Yeah. We can't have our impact if we're doing like it's like color in the lines, but the lines are actually, I'm holding my hands really close together if you're listening to this in an audio world, versus you have all this space. We gave you some tools, now play jazz with it. And it's so clear to me that that's when you start to open up and give a coaching session that only you could give.

Linda 26:11

Yeah, absolutely true. Yeah, that's another thing. I I used to um, well, I still I'll still do it here and there. I have a few, but I used to mentor new coaches and they would say, How do you know what you're going to do in a session? And I'm like, Yeah, don't. You meet your client where they are, and you trust that you know what you know, and you trust that you're gonna know what to do. And even if you didn't in the moment later on, if you listen to that recording, you'll say, Oh, I should have done this. You can pat yourself on the back because you do know what you should have done, and you can just do that next time.

Lauri 26:42

Yeah, I love that. And it's one of my favorite things about coaching over the years is that there is a, you know, you you you go in with your coaching training of like, we're not just having a conversation. I'm gonna get like, where are we focusing today? And what is it that you're craving? Some version of that, and then just follow. It's one of the most free expression places. And uh, I got my MCC five years ago, so I don't know, somewhere since pandemic time. And I showed up to a master coaching class, and I was like, I get what you're trying to do, but this feels way too passive for me. And like the coach is asking, the person who's leading is asking, like, can I do this? Would it be okay with you if I shared blah, blah, blah, blah, through the whole session. And I had this like fiery, hello, did you not design the alliance in the beginning? Like, why, what, what is happening here? And then I realized, oh, I understand what they want. They want to know for sure that you can follow the client. And my definition of master coaching has more room for creativity and intuition than what I'm seeing here. So I'm gonna choose recordings that suit what you're guiding us toward. And my version, my fullest expression of it is sometimes the client is leading and I'm following. Sometimes I lead for a moment and they follow. When you look at it from the outside, you often can't tell who's leading or who's following. And at its best, neither one of us probably even know who's leading and who's following because we're both so open and listening and responding back and forth in the moment.

Linda 28:44

Yeah, absolutely.

Lauri 28:45

Yeah.

Linda 28:46

Um, it really does take just letting go and trusting that you know what you know, trusting who you are and and

Freezing on camera: the vulnerability that taught more than confidence

Linda 28:57

being there for that other person instead of for yourself. And I do remember I was, it was at the that last five-day, so many interesting things happened in that last five-day culmination before I was uh got certified as a master coach. Um, one of the things was we were Martha was always setting her phone timer for five minutes. And she was saying, Master coach doesn't make smoke, they make fire. So you think about you're rubbing your sticks together and you better make fire. And you've got five minutes to do it. And that includes, you know, assessing and seeing what's going on and, you know, and then actually helping some type of movement or aha in in that client in five minutes. And um uh it was like, okay, Linda, you coach this other person, and this is a person I knew, I knew for years. We had been on some retreats together, like we were, you know, and I had coached her. She had asked me to coach her on a number of times, and I'd coached her but before many times. I'm like, great, but I'm being watched, and so that added another level of pressure. So I got stuck. I froze. And I recognized I froze. And I said to the observer who was watching me, um, and I said to this person I was coaching, I said, Can you two just give me a moment? Because I got stuck, and that and the fact that I'm stuck and I'm thinking that I'm stuck is means I'm here all in my own stuff and I'm not here for you. So I need a minute so I can get back to you, right? And I took a deep, they're like, sure, I took a deep breath or whatever. And of course the five minutes was up, like I never got to finish, right? And um we were, you know, they had they then Martha asked. She's like, she asked the person I was coaching, you know, what did you uh what was your experience? She goes, Well, I know Linda's a really great coach. She's coached me a number of times before, and she got she got a little stuck, um, which is kind of weird, but you know, but I already know she's a great coach. But that the observer said, This was so amazing. And I'm like, what? Because I'm feeling all embarrassed, like, oh my God, I sucked all these great, they're such great coaches, and then there's me, right? And she said, No, Linda recognized when she was not there for the client, when she was in her own business, and she recognized it right away. And she took a moment and she asked if she could regroup. And she took a moment, she regrouped, and she came back. And that's what a good coach does. And so that's the thing. I somehow I got in that I'm less than, I don't know what to do, I'm stuck. And then I wasn't there for her. And to be your authentic self is to just be like, oh, that's interesting. Look what happened. Okay, and just come clean with it and be vulnerable. Like, I got stuck, just give me a minute, it'll come to me, you know, and not be so worried about it.

Lauri 32:09

Yeah, it's, you know, the word authenticity has gotten so overused. I like to use raw authenticity, where it's like, it's so authentic that a lot of the things that we might have been trained to hide because there might be shame or embarrassment around it, when we're so there for the other person and so comfortable with ourselves overall that we're willing to say, I'm gonna pause because I can't be of service unless I do this other thing. Yeah. And it to me creates a permission in the room. If we're a leader, if we do that, it inspired the other coach who was watching you. So it is a moment of untamed leadership where you don't do the world says put on a happy face and just barrel forward as if everything is fine, even though you'd be doing crappy coaching at that point. Right. And you went, no, that's not in alignment with the service that I'm here to be doing. So I'm gonna take a moment for myself. It's almost like the moment that you taught the client that you did with the client earlier in the week, where it's like, well, push the candy bars out as far as you need them. Energetically, you were like, I'm gonna put just an energy out for a moment and collect myself, and then I'll come back and keep going. Right.

Linda 33:42

Mm-hmm. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, it was such a great, a great um experience to to do it and then recognize, you know, oh, it's okay to be vulnerable and do it and just say, all right, I gotta get back. I gotta get back to where I gotta be. So to show up to, you know, be of service, to give attention, not get attention. Um that's really more authentic. I'm actually uh coaching a group right now um to it's called overcoming imposter syndrome. And I actually had uh one of our sessions this morning. And it's it's really interesting that we are uh, you know, how how when we're not showing up as ourself, we can really get lost and um try to be who we're not, right? That's what that's what's happening, and that authenticism or raw, I love the raw, it really goes away. And then you can only be sure that people are accepting or liking who you're trying to be instead of who you naturally are.

Lauri 34:52

Yeah. So yeah. For the first time when you were saying that, I had the thought of, well, you are an imposter right now. If you're if I'm trying to be Linda Booker, yep, I'm I am an imposter. Exactly. That's never landed in my brain like that. Whereas it does not mean I, Lori Smith, am an imposter, period. It's sort of a clue

You can't be an imposter if you're being yourself

Lauri 35:15

that if I'm feeling like that, it might be because I'm doing the copy paste. Yeah. Because I can't be an imposter if I'm being myself.

Linda 35:24

Absolutely, 100%. And also, I've I've shared that like I love the concept of emulating what's working instead of trying to fix what's broken, right? Because you might be trying to fix something that, yeah, it's just not good, it's just not your thing. So, what works? What's working for you? Um, let's just emulate that. And um like sometimes like with your family, you can be 100% yourself, right? And guess what? They're still hanging around. Okay. All right. How can you translate that into your work, into your business? Because it is safe. You're noticing it's safe. And so I like, you know, say when you're feeling like an imposter, that's the time to get curious and say, what am I doing that's really out of alignment with who I am? And what am I really so nervous about?

Lauri 36:12

Mm-hmm. Yeah. If people are leaning in and falling in love and wanting more with you, like your program, how can they find you?

Linda 36:22

Oh, how can they find me? They can find me at lyndabooker.com. I should spell that.com. Um, there's all sorts of, I got a whole freebies page with a whole bunch of good stuff up there. Um, all the programs, my blog, the podcast, everything's all up there. My crazy little personality is up there. It's pretty obvious. And um, you know, I always offer connection. So on the contact us page, you can send me a note or you can book time with me and we'll just have a chat.

Lauri 36:59

Awesome. And before we slide into the Pivot pivot, can you give us like two minutes, or maybe it's even less, on like what is the end of your story? Where is your life now? I'm seeing like a movie where we get the like, and this is how it all ended up. We've set up who you were and a lot of your journey, and they can see and feel who you are now, particularly if they're watching on video. Where are you now and how are you using your voice in the world? So, where I am now is I wake up every day without an alarm.

Linda 37:36

I take the day at my pace. I get to meet incredible people and create beautiful relationships. I get to be a guide in the world according to my human design. I get to coach amazing people to unleash what they were born to bring. I um like just kind of do, I go by feel, and it's and I have the most amount of freedom I've ever had. The freedom to be myself, the and and also the fact that, you know, like when you really discover who you are, you will fall in love with who you are. And then you're like, you're so happy to be yourself. And so I get a lot of comments, like, are you ever not smiling? Like, no, I'm pretty much smiling. Um, and uh, and and going by field also means it's really easy for me to say no um to things that aren't right for me. Um, I've gotten very comfortable with that. Um, even if they seem like a good business opportunity, I kind of check in with my body and my inner energy and say, no, that's not it. And uh so there's been a lot of releasing, and because of that, life is easy and flow and aligned and abundant. And yeah, I'm not making it up. It's actually how I live.

Lauri 39:03

Yeah, you're you're too radiant to be making it up. All right, now let's slide into the Pebo pivot. Linda, what is your favorite word?

Linda 39:17

Well, if I'm going off the top of my head, abundance is the first one that popped out.

Lauri 39:22

What is your least favorite word? Shame. What turns you on creatively, spiritually, or emotionally? Music. What turns you off?

Linda 39:38

Negativity.

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Lauri 39:40

What's your favorite cuss word?

Linda 39:44

Um That's a good question. I don't know. I don't really I don't cuss very often. Like I mean, it never happened again.

Lauri 39:57

What sound or noise do you love?

Linda 40:00

Oh, just music. It's playing in our house all day long all the time.

Lauri 40:04

What sound or noise do you hate? Um excuses. What profession other than yours would be fun to try?

Linda 40:22

Oh, um probably like being a music producer.

Lauri 40:29

And um, she totally lit up on that. I'm trying to just stick to the thing, but there was so much light in her eyes. I'm like, ooh, maybe later in this life or another life. Okay, and Linda, what do you hope people say about you on your 100th birthday?

Linda 40:46

Um She's always been such an inspiration.

Lauri 40:57

Well, you are an inspiration to me, and I know this episode is gonna inspire listeners. Thank you so much for giving your time and your energy and being here today. Thank you for having me, Lori. This is wonderful. And I try to remember this every single time this year. If something in this episode inspired you or touched you, or you think of a friend when you're hearing it, please do all those things like following it, sharing it with a friend, leaving a review. And I will see you back here next time.